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Ceremony Tip

Photo by Heather Bohm-Tallman

I see a lot of wedding ceremonies. And there is one thing during a ceremony that tends to happen and shouldn’t so I wanted to share my thoughts on it. The thing I’m talking about occurs how the bride and the groom say their vows. Now you all know the vow portion of a ceremony – it usually goes something like “Bride, repeat after me, I ~Bride~ take you ~Groom~ to be my husband…” You know, the part where the officiant feeds the bride lines that she repeats, then does the same for the groom. This is the serious part, the part where everything counts and the actual marriage is really happening, so this can be a fairly stressful and emotional to both the bride and the groom. Now the tendency for some is to look at the officiant who is feeding them the lines and repeat them right back to them. Fight this urge! You are not marrying your officiant, you are marrying your fiance, so look your fiance in the eye when you say your vows. You will be wrapped up in the moment at that point so practice the eye contact part during your rehearsal. Trust me if you practice it then you will do it naturally on wedding day and by doing so you will make your wedding planner very happy. 🙂

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